Obligations...What are you talking about?!

Writing in that sort of way was not always preferred by the highly esteemed self of mine own; yet, seems like i am liking it, so here i am...rolling!



So many things cross my mind all the time, and since i get a lot of time traveling to and fro my work, which is in Mohandeseen, whereas i live in Heliopolis, the thinking cooks pretty well in my head. When speculating over "obligations", a line of things occurs to me... Looking for matching words for "obligations" would certainly lead to things like "i need", "i have to" and "i must". But according to whom do you actually determine your obligations and their priorities? I believe that you yourself are the major factor to make such decisions.



When i think of my obligations, the first thing that comes to my mind is "make a list", and yes, it works very well. Making a list always sets things forth for you, so you don't forget anything, storing them in your beautiful mind; so thank God for computers, papers and pens! Next, look at your schedule, what do you need to get done first and what can be postponed until later? This is when you are prioritizing. Think of vital things that you can't put off till later, say for example "finishing this report at 2:00 pm". Something like that logically comes before "getting something to snack on", you can always get something to snack on, but if you want to finish your report at the right time, and things could get messed up and piled up for you if you don't, then the snacks can wait! Of course this is a random example, but it's hell clear, to kick off any misunderstandings.



Some things don't need a list to remind you of what you need to get done first. Say you're late for work and you need to catch the bus, do you prepare your breakfast then get dressed, or you get dressed first then grab sth to eat on the go? this is when you use your common sense buddy!

Anyway, back to the point of obligations; the problem lies in the dilemma of different people defining obligations to their own views and arguing over how important they are; whilst they are of no importance at all to others! A good trick here is being aware of the person's background and how their cute brainy works, in order to avoid a senseless clash. Older traditional people usually believe somethings to be disasterously obligatory, while younger generations find them okay to do or not to do. If you're in that situation, simply compromise, if it's a visit to some place you hate, stay a while then take your leave, pretend you're sick to leave, or even catch up with your folks at the destined place later on! Negotiations don't work some many times, when there isn't a clear path between the persons meant, but take a shot, and remember to be calm and reasonable to them, to get your way! If nothing works, seek external help from someone of influence, a dear uncle/aunt, a bro/sis, a kind granny, or even a close family friend. And you know what? sometimes, giving it a good thought could have you convinced that the opposite of what you think is actually right, and that it's good to try to do that thing you believe is a meaningless obligation.

This is all i remember for now lol, my line of thought says "damn it, stop typing granny!"
and you know what? Just never do anything you're not convinced of, follow your guts and your mind and you'll be fine! One more tiny secret here...watch others in similar situations and pick which side you wanna play on.

Love,
Ony